The anxious mind is chaos and disorder, quenches our potential and often adds us to a state of weakness and absolute anguish. To take control and reduce its impact we can look for that strategy that best suits our personal characteristics. However, there is one that always works: self-care, that is, attend to, nurture and listen to us as we deserve.
Being captive to a mental state in which only the concerns inhabit is exhausting. But the contradictory aspect of this condition is that the more exhausted we are, the more resources and energy our brain has consumed, the more it will cost us to rest. Because the dream does not always mean exhaustion, it comes when there is inner calm, when there is silence in the thoughts.
It is not easy to live with anxiety as a companion. And yet, we do it. Moreover, as the data on the incidence of these psychological realities indicate, even though we are dealing with a type of treatable disorder, only 35% of the people who suffer from it come to ask for specialized help.
There are people who cohabit permanently with an anxious mind. In this way, they lose their quality of life, extinguish their present potential, fill their future with anguish and put their health at risk. Let’s see therefore what this strategy that we should all apply daily.
“When you are present, you can allow the mind to be as it is without getting entangled in it.”
Self-care is not self-indulgence, it is commitment to oneself
Self-care in a demanding world, full of uncertainties and demanding so much from us, is essential. However, it should be noted that this term is often confused with other concepts. It was in the 80s when mental health professionals spoke to us for the first time about the importance of living healthy habits to reduce the impact of stress and anxiety.
Now, at this time the advertising industry did not hesitate to endorse that term. So much so that they launched a wide range of products under the self-care label. In this way, and for a long time, they were associated with this idea from bath salts, creams, shampoos, to food products intended (supposedly) to make us feel good.
Therefore, from the psychological field it is necessary that we promote the bases of a correct self-care. One whose strategies are based in a precise (and scientific) way on what this concept really looks for.
What is really self-care?
Self-care is much more than pampering or self-indulging. It is putting into practice behaviors that help us reduce discomfort, contradiction, fear, stress…
Self-care is calm. It is to reach an adequate internal balance where recharge energies, not lose them.
Likewise, to reduce and control the anxious mind, a daily self-care plan must be applied. By this we mean something very simple, but that not everyone comes to fulfill. Well-being, self-care requires a plan and a series of activities and processes that we must carry out each day. It’s not worth starting a few routines today and forgetting them next week. Well-being requires commitment.
What’s more, as they explain in a study carried out at Queen’s Kingston University in Canada, self-care is a set of activities in which one gets involved throughout life every day. Doing so, generates changes and helps us prevent multiple diseases.
Anxious mind: 5 keys to self-care to control it
Pessimism, excessive worry, feeling of lack of control, psychological exhaustion … The anatomy of the anxious mind may differ in some aspects from one person to another, but on average, is characterized by these common factors.
So, before resorting to drugs, before even telling us that ‘we are like this and we have no remedy’, it is worth pausing for a moment on these strategies.
The keys derived from the practice of daily self-care can help us. Let us therefore reflect on them.
Your safe space to calm the anxious mind
A safe space is a place, corner, bench, space under a tree or sofa in front of a window that generates calm. It is a comfort zone to go to, at least twice a day for 15 or 20 minutes. During that time, we will connect with ourselves to ask how we are doing.
This safe space will allow us to enjoy a moment of solitude in which to generate a positive and friendly internal dialogue with ourselves. We will deepen the concerns to convince ourselves that everything will go well. We will relieve anguish and most importantly; We will rationalize fears.
Schedule happiness moments
Happiness is wellness and satisfaction. It is being good with oneself without anything about, without missing anything. To calm the anxious mind we must therefore ‘program’ throughout the day some activity that generates these sensations. It is essential that in each of our days we can enjoy that hour or two hours where we can relax, rest, and positively stimulate the brain.
It is enough, simply, to do something that we like, that is in tune with our passions and personality (walk, take a course, listen to music, meet friends, etc).
My channels for relief
Anxiety also needs some channel of relief to release all those accumulated energies and tensions. In this way, it is ideal that we resort to practices such as yoga, mindfulness, some sport that pleases us and even why not, some artistic discipline.
Invest in health
Self-care is also health, but we must have one aspect clear again: we must firmly commit ourselves to it. In this way, aspects as basic as attending to what we eat, how we feed ourselves and what habits we follow, will undoubtedly make our wellbeing worse or better. You have to follow a plan and fulfill it.
Health is also prevention, so let’s try to listen and listen to our body and our mind. Let’s not leave that physical discomfort or worry for tomorrow, let’s answer it today or go to a professional. What is left aside can get worse. So let’s be aware of it, remember that living with an anxious mind is not living, it’s limiting ourselves to existing in survival mode.