The way we communicate has changed. This change affects our day to day and affects all areas of our lives. And, of course, our intimate and erotic sphere has also been affected by these changes. It is in this context that phenomena such as sexting have appeared.
The new forms of communication have facilitated a kind of instantaneous interaction without barriers. As we say, in this framework sexting encompasses a whole set of communication elements through ICTs. Let’s dig a little deeper into this concept and analyze the myths of sexting.
What is sexting?
The word sexting results from the fusion of the English words sex and texting (text messaging). It is considered sexting a whole series of practices that consist in sending erotic content through electronic devices, such as smartphones, tablets or computers. Within these practices fit all kinds of formats: photographs, gifs, videos, texts, audios …
There are countless ways to perform this practice. However, it is important to clarify that sexting is an activity that occurs within a relationship between two or more people.
Therefore, everything that is considered sexting must be consented and must be done freely if it is decided to do so. That is, when a person chooses to send content of an intimate nature to another, he does not have to do it because he feels pressured, but because he wants to do so.
When thinking about these types of practices, it is common that they are considered dangerous. In some areas, they even try to prohibit or prevent. But the truth is that sexting is not, per se, something bad or something good, but it is a way of communicating. More than being good or bad, we can say that it has disadvantages, but also advantages.
If we talk about inconveniences, it is curious that the main drawback of these practices is that there are no limits. That is, the disadvantages have to do more with the use than with what sexting itself is. Our electronic devices allow us to send all kinds of content and we must set the limits.
What are the repercussions of not setting limits or not using sexting properly? Pressures or blackmail may occur to send erotic content without the person wanting to do so. Or, that the person who receives the content, without permission of the sender, can share it with more people. And we can even find episodes as unpleasant as a person sharing intimate content of his ex-partner, after a break, as a revenge.
Now, these drawbacks feed much the myths of sexting and, in general, the conception of these practices. Sexting, as a way of communicating, has important advantages. These are practically the same as those given to us by new forms of communication; the immediacy, the accessibility and the elimination of geographical barriers. If your partner is on the other side of the world, you can continue to keep the flame of passion through erotic games from your mobile.
We know that these types of relationships are not going to replace skin-to-skin relationships, but they are going to contribute to our desire and our longing for the other person, despite the distance. Therefore, sexting covers needs that previously could not be met. In addition, from our mobile devices we can perform this type of interaction in a way that makes us feel more comfortable.
Myths of sexting
Given its meaning, advantages and disadvantages, we are able to list a series of myths or popular beliefs about sexting:
- Sexting is dangerous. Neither is nor does it cease to be. What may be dangerous, as we said, is a misuse of it.
- Sexting is cold and impersonal. The sending of erotic content through electronic devices does not have to replace the erotic relationships in which there is physical contact.
- Sexting is promiscuous. These practices are used by people in all kinds of situations. Moreover, they are usually used in conventional couples who have no other way to express and satisfy their erotic needs.
- Sexting always ends badly. It does not have to be used well. In fact, more and more professionals of Sexology work with boys and girls in sex education classes.
How to practice sexting safely
The myths of sexting are very widespread. To end these myths it is necessary to offer alternatives for the practice of safe sexting. If you want to practice sexting without risks, the main thing is to choose the person with whom you practice it.
Confidence, as in conventional erotic relationships, determines how comfortable and free we are going to feel. In addition, if we practice sexting with a person of trust, we can be more sure that we carry out this practice voluntarily and not by imposition, which is another of the recommendations when carrying out these practices.
If we focus on the content, we can minimize the risk in a very simple way. We must act in such a way that if, for whatever reason, the content we send falls into the wrong hands, we can not be identified or identified. For example, if we send a photo in which we show our body or part of it, this photo can be sent with the same intention and the same effect without being recognized, either by covering the face or by cutting the photograph.
If you choose to send intimate content, make sure you do not recognize other distinctive signs in you, such as piercings, tattoos or supplements that you usually use very often. It is also recommended that the context in which you send those photographs is neutral (that there is not a familiar background photo, or a very characteristic poster that people know you have, for example). Try to erase periodically the intimate photos that have been saved on your device, because you never know who will be able to access it.
We live in a hyperconnected society. When we send a photo through our phone, we automatically lose control over it, either by choosing platforms or applications do not guarantee security and privacy, or because of the lack of responsibility of those who receive the content.