The sexologist is an unknown figure, being, in parallel, surrounded by a certain mystery. First of all, before saying who and how this professional figure is, it would be good to describe the discipline itself: sexology is the science that studies the sexes: their identities, mixtures, differences and interactions, both intimate and public. That is, it does not study sex, in the singular, but the sexes, in the plural, since they are two, with all the diversity that entails: there are infinite ways of living and feeling as a man and as a woman.
In this case we refer to a scientific discipline that is approximately one hundred years old. That is to say, it is not as settled or normalized as other disciplines that, in some way, are present in our lives.
It is precisely the youth of this science that feeds the uncertainty, ignorance and, by the way, some prejudices … And, when a discipline does not enjoy much travel, it needs time to settle, institutionalize, enjoy a certain approval and social consideration In addition, this science carries the popular belief of being the sole and exclusive charge of the “problems of the bed”, when it deals with many more situations.
His youth and the subject he deals with make it peculiar. So much so, that sexologists and sexologists are professionals about whom there is still some ignorance. What exactly they do or what they have studied are just two of the most frequent questions, whose answers are unknown to a large part of society.
What characterizes a sexologist?
Interventions in sexology can be grouped into four major groups: education, counseling, therapy and research. These four areas, different and diverse, provide a diversity in the professional profiles more than notorious, which would be difficult to define a specific professional profile.
However, there are certain features or characteristics that a sexologist should have or that, at least, help the development of their profession:
- Social skills. In practically all areas, the sexologist will have to deal directly with individual or couple difficulties, and this requires a certain delicacy in the treatment, in the words, the forms and, ultimately, the type of communication. Achieving the balance between being close without losing professionalism and being professional without losing closeness is a difficult task that requires practice.
- Curiosity. Either by addressing, at times, issues that are rarely addressed in other areas, or simply because the study of the sexes offers a lot of diversity, the sexologist is in a continuous learning. Thus, it is difficult for a person who has chosen this profession not to be curious to know and nurture knowledge of it.
- Mental opening. The sexologist must not only be willing to learn every day, but must also be willing to have sufficient mental openness to receive information from many sources and not discard it or assume it before processing it. In other words, the sexologist, due to the continuous and rapid evolution, has to integrate constant updates.
What training does a sexologist have?
We already know what a sexologist is dedicated to, what characteristics are recommended for the practice of their profession, but we may not know exactly what academic training a sexologist has received. It is important to emphasize that, depending on the country in which we are, Sexology, in general terms, is more or less developed. That means that those countries in which the discipline has advanced, have granted it an academic and labor entity.
In the case of Spain, a sexologist is a professional who holds a university degree (diploma, degree or degree) and who also has a specialization. Contrary to what many people may think, a sexologist does not have to be a doctor or a psychologist who has specialized in Sexology; On the other hand, the truth is that training in the first branches is recommended.
In fact, in our country we have great professionals who have been trained in Sexology after having studied careers such as sociology, journalism, physiotherapy, philosophy, social work or anthropology. This discipline is so wide that the diversity of academic profiles guarantees that it works from practically all the perspectives.
What myths revolve around the sexologist?
We list them below:
Sexologists only intervene in erotic difficulties
Indeed, sexologists treat these types of difficulties in erotic relationships, but they are not the only ones. Since, in addition to working with these types of difficulties, there is a considerable variety of situations that can be treated by a sexologist, such as relationship and separation of partners or infidelities.
“If you are a sexologist, you have to be very good in bed.”
This myth may seem sympathetic and even funny, but the truth is that although it is a widespread myth, it can generate difficulties and create unrealistic expectations about how a sexologist works in its most intimate setting.
“Being good in bed” is an expression that Sexology rejects, because it is not understood that there is a “correct way” to have relationships, but there are many ways, and we have to choose the one that gives us the most pleasure and please us more.
They teach to put condoms in the institutes
More than a myth, this is an image that has been built over time with regard to the intervention that our guild makes in primary and secondary education centers.
It is important to talk about sexual health; know how to put a condom, know what type of contraceptive methods exist and what sexually transmitted infections, but even more is to know if, when adolescents decide to have sex is because they really want it and not because they give in to pressure.
It is also important to teach to manage intimacy in the couple, so that boys and girls learn that you can not invade the privacy of your boyfriend or girlfriend with the intention of controlling it. And this is just an example of intervention that is carried out in the classrooms by sexologists and sexologists.