Have you ever wondered what is the origin of unhappiness? Where does it come from? Throughout time, countless books have been written about what happiness is and whether or not it is possible to achieve it. This gives us an idea of the importance we give him.
However, to this day, no consensus has been reached. We also do not know what to do to maintain it. Is this possible? What does seem certain is the almost constant perception that something is missing or how worried we are about a multitude of problems. And the fact is that the discomfort occupies too large a space in our daily life.
Putting patches on unhappiness
There are many theories that revolve around suffering. Techniques are described to overcome fears, to live the present, to ignore our thoughts, etc. However, in many cases an important question remains to be answered: why does our human nature tend to do just the opposite? What is the origin of unhappiness?
Human beings are content to go patching our unhappiness, but do not delve into the functioning of our emotions, thoughts or behaviors. We do not dive into the root of the matter.
First of all, we must accept one thing: nature does not want us to be happy. It does not matter that we are fully aware at every moment, that we invent fears, or that we adhere to our wishes.
Therefore, nature does not want us to be happy, but to survive. And this, sometimes, is a contradiction. These two objectives sometimes clash loudly. We are like a child with a hammer in hand. Instead of building, that child is dedicated to hammering everything around him, including himself. He does not know how the tool works or what it’s for.
The origin of unhappiness
According to the researchers, the origin of unhappiness lies in four basic causes. What are these four basic causes? Let’s see them We are born with useful ancestral tendencies. These tendencies (mental structures, emotional systems and behaviors) are developed as we grow. They developed both to survive and to simplify, organize and give coherence to the outside world.
These tendencies take root in all of us, even more so when we observe them or suffer them during our life experiences. For the most part they are unconscious and automatic. If we do not make good use of them, they can make us interpret the world away from reality or leading us to the drift of an emotional sea.
Second, these innate tendencies no longer serve in the current world in which we live. They served before, in a past time completely different from the current one. However, we continue thinking and feeling in the same way as the individuals of those times. This leads us to confuse our true needs.
Third, innovations do not start from scratch in the course of evolution. They overlap existing features. Therefore, our brain consists of the most primitive brain until the most recent. All are useful, but they can fight to take the control and lead the person to be confused in their contradictions.
Finally, the lack of self-knowledge and the difficulties we have to overcome it make us disconnect from what happens inside us. We are pushed by tides that hit us everywhere and we do not know how to take command.
Our useless innate tendencies
According to Eduard Punset, excellent behavior patterns thousands of years ago have ceased to be useful and, nevertheless, are still valid. On a physical level there are many examples of this: the wisdom tooth, the need to create a larder of fat in our body …
We remain attentive, as thousands of years ago, to what we lack, to the mistakes we make, to the prejudices with which they are different from us even though we know they are not dangerous. We also continue to desire what the other has, even if it does not help us survive. We have the same tendencies as our ancestors, but our societies have changed.
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