There is no person who is totally extraverted or totally introverted. Between both extremes there are an infinity of nuances, although, in general, traits of introversion or extraversion predominate in each person. However, there are some people who manage to combine in a very balanced way the best of the extraverts and the best of introverts. These are the ambivertidos.
According to Dr. Jennifer Granneman, author of the book The Secret Life of Introverts, who are cataloged as ambivertidos are fascinating individuals. People who achieve an excellent balance between communication and listening. Also between the reserve of prudence and the opening of spontaneity.
“The reality of others does not lie in what they show you, but in what they do not know how to show you: And if you really want to understand others, do not listen to what they say, but what they keep silent.”
The first to address this issue was the Swiss psychoanalyst Carl Jung. Jung’s concepts have had a great impact on psychology and, for that reason, a good part of personality classifications are based on their postulates. The categories of introversion and extraversion were initially worked on by him and we have to refer to them to understand what ambivertidos are.
Introversion: neither shyness, nor isolation
The main characteristic of introverted people is that they focus more on their inner world than on the external world. In a natural way, they are inclined to look within themselves and get their source of meaning in their ideas, their imagination, their memories and everything that makes up their subjective universe.
The introvert is not shy in reality. Nor unsociable. He simply appreciates the moments of solitude because contact with himself is indispensable. Neither does he refuse contact with others, but he is very selective and does not want to be with someone next to him all the time. That is why they prefer quiet environments and reject noisy atmospheres.
From the neuroscience point of view, introverts are more sensitive to dopamine. Therefore, being in an environment with too many stimuli can exhaust them emotionally. Hence, prefer the quieter atmospheres.
Extraversion or nurturing of others
On the other side are the extroverts, those spontaneous and spontaneous people who make friends easily and do not keep what they think. They are, in general, much more socially accepted than introverts. This is due to the ease with which they connect with others.
The extravert is nourished by social relationships. He likes to be in contact with others and, in fact, is nourished by those links to feel good. Loneliness seems boring and needs environments that provide constant stimuli. Passivity or too much silence, end up depressing them.
These types of people are usually impulsive and perhaps superfluous. They are not interested in deepening the reflections. They are people of action, who need to be in movement and introspection is not something that appeals to them. They are, so to speak, people with a minimum filter. What they think and feel translates into action almost immediately.
Edmund S. Conklin, an American psychologist, was the first to talk about ambivertidos. He did it in 1923. He pointed out that they were a model of stability and balance. He defined them as people who bring together the best of introverts and extroverts. They adapt easily to both loneliness and the company and ensure that both aspects are in balance.
In social situations they open up to others and seek relationships that are fluid and spontaneous. They know how to take advantage of the company of the others, nourishing themselves on their contributions and allowing others to enter their world. Social situations do not make them tense or wear them out. They make the most of them and assume them as necessary for their balance.
In the same way, they can deal with loneliness without any problem. In fact, they look for it at certain times. They need to maintain contact with themselves and appreciate the contributions of introspection. They are also selective in what they share and do not share with others.
This type of people are skilled at handling the two codes: that of introverts and that of extraverts. Psychologist Daniel H. Pink has compared them to bilingual people, since they are fluent in two languages at the same time and find the best way to express themselves in both.