It is called comfort zone to all that set of circumstances to which we adapt passively and that, for the same reason, exert a minimum degree of demand on us. And although, apparently, this gives us peace of mind, it is a false peace because life is dynamic and sooner or later we will face change, however much we resist this.
The most problematic is that the comfort zone is not precisely a space to develop the ability to adapt to the new. Rather, it is the opposite. The more we remain repeating routines and moving only in the terrain of the known, the more difficult it will be to visualize and address the variations.
That is why it is said that the comfort zone generates a false peace. It is not the tranquility of those who trust in themselves, but those who have the fantasy of controlling everything. When leaving that zone of comfort, the supposed peace disappears and it becomes insecurity and anguish. The tranquility in that case does not depend on the person, but on the stability of the circumstances, that is why it is so fragile.
“The only possibility of discovering the limits of what is possible is to venture a little beyond them, towards the impossible”.
The comfort zone and fear
One of the most worrying aspects of the comfort zone is that it is built according to fear. What a person who sets up in the context of circumstances and people that are familiar to him, is mainly to experience security. He wants to minimize uncertainty and therefore demarcates a subjective territory and does not leave there.
The comfort zone is configured from fear. Thus, the objective of not leaving there is also dictated by fear. Everything that is not within that known territory is experienced as a threat. The new, the different, the unknown is considered as threatening for those who surround their lives in that way. The false peace that you experience ends when something unexpected happens.
Due to that latent presence of fear, many think that the comfort zone is actually a danger zone. And it is a danger zone as long as those who settle there are progressively vulnerable, because their security and tranquility depend exclusively on external factors, which can change at any time.
A false peace that costs
In addition to all the above, those who stay in their comfort zone do not even feel completely calm being there, even if no change comes. They depend so much on certain circumstances, that it is not uncommon for them to experience episodes of great anxiety and false beliefs. Even if they are not at risk, they fantasize about the possible risks that may appear. This causes them anguish and ends with the false peace that supposedly should predominate.
A high price is also paid in terms of sense when someone refuses to cross the comfort zone barrier. The most common example is that of the employee who detests his work, but for nothing in the world renounces him. Certainly, it does not give peace to live doing something that one does not like. But in some, the fear of facing something new and, of course, uncertain is greater.
Those who stay in the comfort zone are not really calmer, nor happier. What they do is create a hiding place to deal with fear. With this they do not solve their insecurities, but, on the contrary, they potentiate them.
The only way to overcome fears
The only way to overcome fears is to face them, we all know that, although sometimes we try to ignore it. Looking at the face of fear is not pleasant, at least at the beginning. It is something that takes us to our own limits and that, in principle, generates sensations that are not pleasant at all. We experience fear, for a moment, at its maximum intensity.
In the end, staying in the comfort zone is a way of declaring that we feel incapable of many things. It is true that there are many things that we are not able to do, because reality imposes limits. We are not capable of being immortal, nor of preventing situations that cause us pain. However, we can be able to find the way to recover our balance.
When we manage to trust ourselves in a reasonable way, fears return to their true dimension. There also appears a sense of tranquility thatIt does not equate to that false peace of the comfort zone, but to a better expectation in front of our own performance. It takes that confidence to turn our lives into what we want, instead of reducing it to a corner that protects us, but also imprisons us.