Assertiveness is the ability of each individual to defend their own rights in a non-aggressive way. Right to be who you are, to express what you think or feel and to do it with the utmost respect for yourself and others. In addition, a person can be assertive when they know their rights and the alternatives they have to protect them.
Today we are going to focus on three of the basic assertive rights, without forgetting that there are many more. So, instead of opening an endless list, we will explore three of them in depth: the right not to give explanations, the right to succeed and the right to enjoy and enjoy.
Assertiveness: a little-known concept
In reality, the basic assertive rights are all those that people possess because they are. That also means that others enjoy the same assertive rights as you. A fact that should not be forgotten when we have to choose the way to defend these rights.
Assertiveness is precisely the quality, understood as knowledge, courage and know-how, that allows us to defend our rights when the situation does not favor this defense. Thanks to assertiveness we can say no to our boss or friend when he asks us for a favor or point out an injustice when he has committed a friend.
Thanks to assertive communication we can express opinions, defend rights and make suggestions without violating the rights of others. In addition, an honest communication with the outside will allow us to maintain a healthier dialogue, since we will not have to invent justifications for our way of acting, thus avoiding dissonance.
We speak of a form of communication that is learned and trained. Therefore, today we bring you the most important assertive rights.
The explanations are voluntary
There are innumerable occasions in which we feel obliged to justify the decisions or actions we take, including the opinions we have on a topic. But, the truth is that we are only obliged to give the explanations that we want.
Each is your own judge, and the basic assertive right not to give explanations comes from the fact that no one is the one to judge you, regardless of whether or not you have committed a crime. If you often find yourself in situations where you see yourself giving many explanations – when you do not want to give them – you may be focusing your existence on wanting to please others to be accepted.
Think that you do not have to like everyone; In return, you deserve that anyone respects you. Many of the thoughts you hold are not logical, as are many of the ideas you hold. Supporting this incoherence in front of you and in front of others is an achievement that requires practice … and assertiveness.
The right to succeed
Apparently, protecting this right is not a complicated task, right? Well, sometimes, it can be, and a lot. For many of the achievements you aspire to, there is competition, for many of those you have achieved, you may have suffered. We speak of a competition that does not always play clean or that, out of envy, does not hesitate to throw dirt on what we have achieved.
On the other hand, the Procusto syndrome is the name given to those individuals who feel the need to cut the heads or feet of people who excel. The fear of being victims of Procusto forces some people to do everything possible to not stand out or differentiate themselves from the rest.
Right to enjoy
The right to enjoy, enjoy and be happy. Many people who have worked hard, strive, have gone through a bad spell or a dramatic event, then have the feeling of having awakened. But, the truth is that this right to enjoyment should be considered as something basic.
The average age was undoubtedly a dark period. In many places joy and laughter were forbidden. The vision of life as a path of suffering was widespread. Thus, in this scenario the celebration and the party were censored. Returning to the present, it is true that we have taken a step forward in this regard. An important step However, there are still people who refrain from celebrating or expressing joy for fear of being histrionic.