Whatever style of life we lead, it is clear that sooner or later we end up stumbling upon susceptible people. Individuals who at the minimum create dramas and who, although they do not have to enjoy conflicts, the truth is that they take everything to the personal land very easily.
In this article we will see how to identify susceptible people by their typical characteristics. Of course, keep in mind that these are some general indications, and that every human being is a world that can not be completely summarized only with a label.
The characteristics of susceptible people
Among the signs that show that we are dealing with a susceptible person, we find the following.
1. Given the ambiguity, they see conflict
In personal relationships many moments of ambiguity usually arise, which are open to multiple interpretations. When this happens, especially susceptible people assume the worst possible scenario, and easily imagine offenses directed towards them.
2. They do not stop to reflect on their anger
Another basic aspect of susceptible people is that they do not stop to consider what really happened when they feel offended. However, they do not always directly confront whoever they claim has attacked them; it is also possible to simply adopt a passive-aggressive attitude.
3. They try to turn the conversation around the supposed attack
It is not easy for these individuals to turn pages in a matter of seconds, given that they give so much importance to the cause of their discomfort that they can try to put aside the topic of conversation that was being discussed before, or what was being done.
Although that does not mean that it is impossible to prevent that false attack from taking center stage; There are ways to show that there is no reason to be and that therefore there is no need to pay attention.
How to relate to them?
If something characterizes us as a species, that is diversity. Human beings are able to adopt many ways of living life, and that is why we have different personalities, attitudes and ways of perceiving life and personal relationships.
Now, our diversity makes that in some cases, we find people with a very extreme personal characteristic, much more developed than the average. When this characteristic has to do with hostile attitudes or the facility to generate conflicts, it can be a challenge to deal with those individuals.
Susceptible people are a reality that it is better to know how to manage in our personal relationships, without that why we have to make friends with them. Virtually no conversation is predestined to end in arguments and anger, however much predisposition to conflict there is.
1. Do not ridicule
Sometimes, the susceptibility of the person speaking with us may seem like a joke. However, for them the reason for their anger is very real, they do not do comedy.
The first step is to accept that they have really offended, although that does not mean that we give much importance to the situation if we see that it is sufficiently serious enough to limit us not to feed this confrontation.
2. Apologize only when you have reasons
Apologizing for the simple fact that someone has taken a wrong comment or action is not advisable, at least in all cases. You only have to do it if there really has been a reasonable misunderstanding, that is, one in which you think that a large part of the rest of the people could have fallen into that context.
It may seem that refusing to apologize to the susceptible person is generating conflict, but it does not have to be the case. On many occasions, apologizing only feed the story that there has been an offense, and not a misunderstanding, and that can vitiate the conversation further, anchoring it in hostility.
3. If you are going to criticize, adopt an impersonal and constructive perspective
When you want to criticize something that has made a person especially susceptible, do it referring to the perspective of a fictitious person, who does not know any of those involved, and always putting emphasis on what can be improved, and not on what is wrong.
4. Use non-verbal, non-hostile language
Your postures and gestures should denote confidence and acceptance, and not hostility or defensiveness. Avoid taking bent postures or keeping your arms crossed or covering much of your frontal area in general, and show that the context does not deserve to see an enemy in the other person.
5. Keep an educated attitude, but do not get obsessed
Being afraid to offend the other person does not make sense, because that in any case only generates a rarefied environment to which susceptible people tend to be sensitive. Simply, assume that you do not have to try to fully control the situation, and keep basic standards of education.